NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS SHIT HOLE!!!
I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they go right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart, so that better things can fall together.
there's no doubt about it - breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there's one important truth you need to recognize: some things can't and shouldn't be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It's over for a reason, and deep down inside you probably know what that reason is.
Did you ever notice that there is always
that particular line in that certain song that
always stands out in a certain way and
reminds you of that one person you can't forget?
even more, i had never meant to love him.
one thing i truly knew- knew in the pit of my stomach, in the center of my bones,
knew it from the crown of my head to the soles of my feet, knew it deep in my empty chest-
how love gave someone the power to break you.
i had been broken beyond repair
.
I have given up on you,
and in time i'll learn to let you go.
maybe you're just afraid that someone
might actually wanna be with you.
cause then you couldn't hide anymore;
you'd be out there taking a risk
on something that may or may not work
and that's not good enough for you, is it?
i'll tell you what, love is never 100% positive.
you can't fall unless you take that risk;
and if you don't take that risk,
you'll be hiding forever.
"i understand feelings as small and insignificantly as humanly possible.
and how it can actually ache in places you didn't know you had inside you.
and it doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join,
or new clothes you get. you still go to bed every night going over
every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have
misunderstood. and how in the heck for that brief moment you could think
you were happy. and sometimes you even convince yourself that he'll see
the light and show up at the door. and after that, however long all that maybe,
you'll go somewhere new and you'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile
again. and little pieces of your soul will finally come back. and all that fuzzy stuff"
you were unmistakably my first love and i will never
forget that. even though we both have grown apart,
both changed, a piece of you remains with me. you
will always be a part of me because you unknowingly
showed me what i deserve and every guy i'm with for
the rest of my life will be compared to you.
Maybe I should've seen the signs,
Should've read the writing on the wall
And realized by the distance in your eyes
That I would be the one to fall
No matter what you say,
I still can't believe that you would walk away.
I want you to know that I love you. I never did
stop. Not for one gasping second. My love for you
is unconditional & it will never end as long as I
live. I refuse to find others when I have the one I
want. I never doubted us, but you did. I never stopped thinking about you even though you
stopped thinking about me. I never wanted to let
go, but you did.
There's something familiar about despair; it's like a soft, old blanket. I know depression. I feel welcome here. To believe that my life may be full of joy, laughter, and understanding fills me with so much fear and dissapointment that I would prefer to smoke a cigarette and not believe at all. I either want everything to be magic or mythic, or I want to be dead.
I don’t have a fear of commitment- I have a fear of abandonment.
We all screw things up, I screw things up.
Especially with the people I love.
I get needy, I get moody, I get distant, I want to be too close.
I get confused, I don’t understand all of it.
But I keep pushing because I hope in this thing. The universe.
There’s no way I’m the only person out there who wants something this bad.
If I want it someone else out there must too.
| i'm not a girl who knows how to use words to explain how she exactly feels
a whoollee week went by |
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drunk
Forgiving is one of the most difficult things we must do. It doesn't mean saying what the person did was OK. It means saying I will no longer hold it over you, keep bringing it up every time I'm mad at you, or harbor bitterness toward you.
Bitterness is a poison that can shrivel your soul. It can turn you into a person no one wants to be in. It can seep into the lives of those you love, and cause more pain than the original offense. When we forgive, we drain the poison and cauterize the wound in order to keep from becoming infected ourselves. Bitterness and unforgiveness hurts you more than it hurts the unforgiven one. Often they don't even realize how they've hurt you.
That brings us to forgetting. The scar will always be there, but you will choose not to bring up the injury again. It is not that you have wiped it out of your memory, but that you have wiped it out of your arsenal to use as a weapon against the person that hurt you.
Understanding the above is one of the best ways to begin to forgive and forget. When we understand what forgiveness is and what not forgiving can do to our spirit, mind and even body that we are able to let it go. It is not that the person deserves to be forgiven so much as that I deserve to forgive. Forgiveness gives ME a better life and unforgiveness doesn't. It's that simple. It is not that easy however. Sometimes we have to forgive repeatedly until we have it. We forgive and then pick it back up again. When we stop picking it back up, that is when we have 'forgotten'.
Remembering how much we have been forgiven also helps us forgive and forget. Even if you don't believe you are a sinner saved by the grace of the perfect sacrifice of Jesus Christ, you know that you have hurt others. Sometimes we don't intend to hurt, and we never even know how deeply we have hurt someone else. It is our tendency to justify our own wounding and maximize our own wounds anyway. If we expect forgiveness, we must forgive.
When I was dealing with trying to forgive some people in my life, I posted the following forgiveness meditation around my house and read it every day until it sunk in. It changed my thoughts about forgiveness forever. It is taken from "Food for Love: Healing the Food, Sex, Love & Intimacy Relationship" by Janet Greeson, Ph.D. (p. 154)
-Forgiveness is not the denial of a wrongdoing. It frees ourselves, not
the offender, from all responsibility for the abuse.
-Forgiveness means I give up the victim role in all its familiarity and
occasional payoffs.
-Forgiveness means I give up the power to inflict guilt and to seek vengeance.
-Forgiveness breaks the tie that binds me to the offender.
-Forgiveness brings the peace I have always been seeking.
-Forgiveness emancipates my spirit from my prison of shame.
-Forgiveness connects and bonds me to my spirit. I forgive to set that
spirit free.
-I forgive.
Few things hurt more than being dumped. In fact, most people would rather be body slammed by a sumo wrestler than endure the pain and loneliness of heartbreak.
Though breaking up is depressing, your life's far from over. It's important to see the end of a relationship as the beginning of a new chapter in your life. Here are a few tips on how to let go of your ex and move on with your life.
1. Be Nice To Yourself
Breakups happen to the best of us. Actually, they're a normal part of being a teenager. It's important to cut yourself some slack when you're feeling vulnerable and rejected. Let yourself mourn the loss, and remember that you don't have to be perfect all of the time—or any of the time. Nobody is!Being single gives you the freedom to do what you want, when you want. Watch a cheesy movie you would never admit to liking. Switch off your cell phone at the time your ex used to call. Perform a cleansing ritual, such as throwing away her yearbook photo or deleting his mushy e-mails. You'll be amazed how much better you'll feel.
3. Recognize and Release Your Feelings
Breakups can cause a range of unpleasant feelings, from deep sadness to intense anger. It's important to identify what you're feeling, acknowledge that it hurts, then let it go.If you're struggling with the "letting go" part, try writing what you feel on a piece of paper, then ripping it up. When you're feeling really awful, taking a nap or going for a walk can help ease the pain and break the cycle of negative thoughts.
In general, try to get your demons out in a constructive way, such as sports, music, art or journaling. It's also OK to cry, scream and complain about how bad you feel. Find a secluded place to get out the nastiest feelings, then seek out friends and family to lend a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on.
4. Remember Your Ex's Flaws
It's easy to get teary-eyed thinking about his adorable brown eyes or her cute way of answering the phone. But what about your ex's not-so-great qualities? Remind yourself just how annoying, boring or insensitive your ex could be, and you'll be on your way to recovery.5. Resist the Urge To Contact Him or Her
One of the worst parts of a breakup is the loneliness. Use all the willpower you've got to resist calling your ex when you're feeling lonely and sad.Though your ex may have been a source of comfort in the past, calling him or her for an ego boost will only make it harder for you move on. Look for new sources of support among friends, family members, counselors and online support groups.
6. Get a New Hobby
Without a boyfriend or girlfriend to entertain, you have a lot of freedom to try new things. Indulge yourself in some activities that didn't interest your ex, whether it's hockey, ballet or bird watching. Take a photography class, start writing poetry or join a club that interests you. You'll meet new people and feel good about yourself, which will attract both friends and admirers.7. Don't Obsess About What Went Wrong
Many breakups don't have a specific cause. They tend to happen when two people have been growing apart for a while. This isn't to say you shouldn't reflect on what you could have done differently in the relationship, but it's not helpful to dwell on the whys and wherefores.Instead of focusing on the past, live in the moment and begin to dream about the future. You'll find a boyfriend or girlfriend who's at least as great as the last one—and perhaps a better match. Who knows? That special someone could be right around the corner.
Here's How:
- You may feel really low and completely unmotivated right now, but if you can force yourself at first to take these steps, it will get easier!
- Give your friends a call and setup a time to do something fun.
- Do the things you used to enjoy but were not able to do when you were dating your ex.
- Throw yourself into the activities you've been thinking about getting involved in, but haven't had time for.
- Let yourself be around your ex.
- If you feel like you want to get back together, repeat steps 1-5.
- If you're comfortable being around your ex and don't feel the need to slip back into your old relationship, congratulations! You have moved on with your life!
Tips:
- When a person is in a serious relationship, sometimes s/he may put less effort into maintaining friendships. This means you're going to have to be the on to take the first step in repairing your friendships.
- Sometimes a person can identify his/herself by the relationship (ex: seeing yourself as 'Ashely's boyfriend'). This can be hard to deal with when the relationship is over and you're left without an identity.
- Getting over someone is a tough, but you'll learn a lot about yourself and the kind of relationship you want for the future.
Trust is the foundation of a relationship. You can trust without loving but can you love without trusting? confused:(
Ano nga ba talaga ang tunay na kahulugan ng “PAG-IBIG”?
- ang sabi nila ang PAG-IBIG daw ay kusang dumarating.
- hindi raw ito hinahanap o hinihintay.
- hindi rin daw ito minamadali kundi pinagiisipang mabuti.
- ang pag-ibig daw ay nagbibigay saya sa isang taong puno ng magpapamahal.
- nagbibigay ng magandang dulot sa buhay ng isang tao.
- mahirap daw itong tumbasan ng kahit anong bagay.
- nahihirapan kana ngunit hindi ka pa rin sumusuko.
- nasasaktan kana ngunit hindi ka pa rin bumibitaw.
- ang PAG-IBIG daw nakakapagpaganda lalo na’t kapag ika’y inlove.
- parati ka daw inspired.
- ang mga ayaw mo na gusto ng taong mahal mo ay natututunan mo ring mahalin at magustuhan.
- naguguluhan kana pero pilit mo pa rin itong iniintindi.
- malayo man o malapit siya ngunit parang nasa tabi mo lang kapag kayo’y magkausap.
- madalas daw ay natataranta ka kapag nagagalit ang mahal mo.
- ginagawa mo ang lahat ng gusto niya huwag lang siya magalit sayo.
- corny man ang mga jokes pero natatawa ka naman.
- nagbibigay ito ng ligaya sau.
- nakakapaglambot ng puso mo kapag ika’y nagagalit.
- nawawala ang problema at pagod mo kapag siya’y kapiling na.
- hahamakin ang lahat kahit alam mong ito’y mahirap.
- pilit mong tinatago ang nararamdaman mo ngunit darating din ang takdang panahon na masasabi mo ang lahat ng gusto mong sabihin.
ano nga ba talaga ng tunay na kahulugan ng PAG-IBIG? ito ba’y positive o negative? maganda ba ang epekto nito kung ikaw nama’y nahihirapan? masasabi mo ba na ang pag-ibig ay nakakapagpasaya sayo kung ang dulot nama’y puro hinanakit, hirap at sakit? ano ba nga ba talaga ng tunay na pag-ibig? kailan mo malalaman na siya na nga ang karapat dapat sayo? kailangan mo mahahanap ang tunay na magkapagpapaligaya sayo ng hindi ka nasasaktan?
marahil ang pag-ibig ay may kanya-kanyang destinasyon. mayroong masaya at mayroon ding umiiyak, mayroong puno ng pagmamahal at mayron din namang naghahanap ng taong magmamahal ng tunay, mayroong nasa feeling heaven ngunit mayron din namang nahihirapan at mayroon namang kuntento na sa isa ngunit mayron ding mas masaya kung sila’y marami..
maraming kahulugan ang PAG-IBIG. paminsa’y akala mo siya na nga ngunit dumarating ang panahon na marerealize mong hindi pa pala siya. akala mo siya na ang nagbibigay saya sayo ngunit sa kasamaang palad ay sakit at paghihirap pa pala ang maaring maibigay sayo. ang pagibig ay hindi hinihintay dahil ito ay kusang dumarating na lamang. kapag ikay’ naghintay walang lumalapit ngunit kapag ika’y hindi naghintay bigla na lang ito dumarating. tandaan na ang pagibig ay binibigyang importansya at hindi pinaglalaruan. dahil kapag ang pagibig ang naglaro sayo baka hindi mo ito makayanang solusyonan.
*Sa mga taong sawi sa pagibig*
“huwag magalala. hindi pa ito ang katapusan ng mundo. darating ang takdang panahon na ang matagal mo ng hinahanap at hinihintay ay kusang lalapit ding muli sau. huwag magaksaya ng panahon sa kakaiyak o pagmumukmok. dahil ang taong nanakit sa inyo ay ang taong kailan ma’y hindi maaaring maging karapat dapat sa pagmamahal mo. mabait ang God, kung ika’y may malaking paniniwala sa kanya tutulungan ka niyang makalimot at makahanap ng taong karapat dapat sayo..”
*Sa mga taong naghihintay at umaasa*
” huwag masyadong umasa dahil baka ika’y masaktan lamang. kung may mahal ka mas mabuting sabihin mo ito sa kanya. anong malay mo. baka gusto ka rin pala niya..”
*Sa mga taong single*
” may kasabihan nga na mas mabuti pa ang nagiisa kaysa namang sa may kasa-kasama ka nga ngunit parati ka namang sinasaktan at parati mo rin siyang pinoproblema. mas mabuti na ang intindihin muna ang sarili bago intindihin ang ibang tao. marahil malamig nga ang iyong pagibig ngunit sa iyong mga pamilya at kaibigan nama’y puno ka ng pagmamahal..”
*Sa mga two-timers*
“kung hindi maganda ang intensyon mo sa isang tao mabuting huwag mo ng ituloy dahil makakasakit ka lng ng isang inosenteng damdamin. kung hindi labag sa puso mo ang iyong mga sinasabi mabuti na ring huwag mo ng sabihin kaysa namang mayroon kang taong pinapaasa sa wala. tandaan na ang karma ay hindi biglang dumarating kundi sa susunod na araw kung kailan nama’y ikaw na ang nagmamahal ng totoo..”
LOVE moves around us. Di natin mapipigilan yan, yan ang ating buhay. Dahilan kung bat tayo patuloy na nabubuhay. Kung wala ang L-O-V-E hindi tayo mabubuo mula sa abo’t putik upang tumayo sa kinatatayuan natin ngayon.
Kung may problema ka man sa pag-ibig. Pareho lang tayo! Haha! Joke. Kung may love problems kayo, you can ask me. I guess, I can give you some advices.
Teka nga lang, bakit ganun? Andami kong natutulungan, andami kong nabibigyan ng advice pero ako mismo, sa sarili ko. Di ko kayang i-apply lahat. And of course, I don’t have a perfect relationship nor lovelife. Neither you or anyone else. Lahat nagkakaproblema at nagkaka-misunderstanding siguro para matuto tayong maging matatag at matutong sumabay sa daloy ng buhay. Lahat naman kayang lagpasan at lutasin, kung may makikitang daanan ang pag-asa sa atin.
Lahat tayo sinasagot ng Diyos ng ” Oo ” , ” Hindi ” at ” Maghintay ka.” sa tuwing tayo’y humihingi ng kanyang tulong. Wala naman talagang ” Hindi tayo para sa isa’t isa. ” , for me, walang ganun! Tayo ang gumagawa ng mga desisyon natin, para panatilihin ang Habambuhay o kaya’y iwanan sa ere ang pag-ibig na inalay. LOL.** Ang lalim ba! Seriously, totoo yan.
There’s no such thing as ” FOREVER ” as long as you’ll prove that it exists. — sashi-nicahletz
Nasa saainyo yan, lahat tayo ay nagfafail kapag tayo’y nadaanan ng mga maling desisyon, na kadalasa’y pinagsisisihan natin sa huli.
Well, I guess. LOVE is a broad topic. It’s difficult to elaborate all the meanings of the said word. Para sakin, tayo ang kusang makakahanap ng ibig sabihin nito through our experiences.
love,
sashi-nicahletz;p
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cheerful
it can be a very difficult decision. sometimes people would say "why don't
pag inde nag work out,then its game over... :zzl: :w:
remember... :grin:
"if love hurts u,love will heal u"... :zzb:
- Mood: cheerful
a heart's not a toy
but if you want it broken
just give to a boy:P
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